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Lovedance


And Nisha...
To wear a condom when with her,
Did make it feel incomplete?
A bit odd?
Several times, it was.
But I wanted to sink neck deep into life.
So
To wear a condom
I invented the 'lovedance'.
You think all this is a bit crazy?
I am sharing these memories with you because
Maybe what was between Nisha and me -
That lovedance -

May be useful for someone out there.

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